Gender Ideology Destroys Lives
Why we need to fight for our children
This is an excerpt from a long form exploration of the contemporary right and why it is the new counterculture. Due to issues like gender ideology I argue it is also the psychologically healthier place to be, as well as the most ethical. The four part series starts here.
GENDER IDEOLOGY IS MUTILATING CHILDREN
The progressive position on COVID and children is bad enough, but the real evil is the medical transition of children, which is a massive uncontrolled experiment in unexplored territory.
My previous position was that a trans child should be unconditionally accepted and affirmed. That was when transition was rare and only involved social changes among older teens. I saw no difference from the androgyny I grew up with.
I saw excesses around the edges, like the “theyby” concept, where a child’s gender is not disclosed by the parents, just in case the child decides they are trans. There is a good chance this will happen as the parents are grooming the child from birth in order to be cool and modern. Munchausen’s by Proxy, using kids for social capital.
A child needs early constants in their life, knowing their sex is one of them. Parents are putting their needs ahead of the child. It is problematic when parents take on their child’s trans identity as their own, hijacking the child’s developmental need to individuate.
The progressive value I live by is body acceptance. We all struggle with body image and the best choice is to learn to love your body as it is and strive to be as healthy as you can. The previous feminist goal was to accept imperfection and see beyond appearance. Identity was linked to personality, interests and achievement not DSM diagnosis, a healthier way of personal evaluation.
What changed my position is information. I read primary source materials on medical transition and detransition. When I learned what is really happening to kids, mainly young autistic women, I was horrified. It is some dark dark shit. I am not sure how any reasonable person can defend it.
Children cannot consent to puberty blockers. Swept up in social contagion and search for identity, they are groomed into thinking medical transition will make them feel better emotionally. They will be special, oppressed because victimhood is an aspiration the new currency of cool.
I would have been one of these girls. I am gender nonconforming and scored 96% male on the gender test. I never thought I wanted kids. I loved to subvert gender. Being fully disabled, I also see this issue through a disability lens, nobody should be made a patient for life through iatrogenic harm.
Medical transition of children should not be undertaken except in exceptional circumstances. The risks and costs are too high. Each person that starts hormone therapy as a teen is worth over $1 million lifetime dollars to the pharmaceutical industry. There is a 14% ANNUAL rate of growth predicted for transition surgeries according to market analysis.
CORRECTION: relied on a source for that figure which turns out to have given inaccurate information to me. This article from CNN gives a more accurate assessment of total costs related to transition, which can approach $1 million lifetime if multiple surgeries and hospital stays are involved.
https://www.cnn.com/2015/07/31/health/transgender-costs-irpt/index.html
Surgical mutilation of children is big business and they are deft in their marketing. There has been a 4000% increase in young woman seeking to change gender. Yes 4000%. There is no reasonable explanation beyond social contagion. Hormones are explicitly packaged and marketed to appeal to teens.
Social transition of children is also not without danger and should be treated with caution. It creates a direct line to medical transition. Once a decision to transition is made, due to social and parental pressure it can be hard for a young person to admit they made a mistake.
HONESTY ABOUT TRANSITION
People are not aware about the truth of transition. The realities are harsh, painful and disfiguring. There is no going back. They say puberty blockers are safe, but they have serious side effects and set a child on a path where the next steps are gruesome.
16 year olds are getting double mastectomies, a railroad track scar across their chest. Sometimes their nipples are preserved but with a significant loss of sensation. Other procedures require realistic nipple tattoos which are cosmetic only.
When testosterone is started it puts a girl into menopause which even mature women struggle with emotionally. I have seen parents express joy about going through it with their teen “sons” and how close it makes them. What the actual fuck? They they should be the voice of reason. Do they not understand biology?
The question, “Would you rather have a live son or a dead daughter?” is used to encourage/validate transition is potent and effective emotional manipulation. A false binary if you will. Statistics do not support this argument, in fact, some studies show an increased risk of suicide for those who transition. They also have not studied detransition regret which can be severe and lead to poor mental health outcomes.
Paradoxically, transition often increases body dysmorphia/dysphoria. It rarely solves the underlying issues that make transition an attractive choice. A young woman named Helena was given the highest possible dose of testosterone after a one hour screening at Planned Parenthood. It caused her mental health issues to significantly worsen. Not once did anyone question the role of testosterone. Her thoughtful essay is a must read.
Testosterone causes uterine atrophy, extremely painful as it pulls on tissue connecting it to the abdominal wall. The solution is a hysterectomy, usually done in the early 20s. Two major surgeries, that most women wish to avoid, are SOP. Young women are left sterilized and often lack sexual function.
These doctors should lose their licenses. They are MAIMING young people and this is CELEBRATED. The doctor below poses with her patients, topless, massive incisions where their breasts used to be.
For women, penises are constructed from flesh removed from the thigh, leaving a large surface wound that can have difficulty healing and results in a large rectangular scar.
For young boys, puberty blockers leave them with a micro penis for life. They don’t really want to talk about the micro penis, which besides lacking sexual function is too small to turn inside out to make a neo vagina. Surgically constructed vaginas have their own set of problems, they are not elastic and require frequent painful dilation and are not self cleaning. Dead skin and other debris can accumulate resulting in odor and infection.
There is an even more extreme movement called nullification where the goal is to remove all secondary sexual characteristics in the pursuit of “true” non binary. This involves hormones, mastectomies, hysterectomies or castration costing hundreds of thousands of dollars. The penis is removed or the vaginal opening is sewn shut. Otherwise known as genital mutilation, which progressives are supposed to be against.
It is rare these surgeries do not require further corrective/reconstructive work that is painful, disfiguring and in the case of severe infection, life threatening. They often cause permanent disability, chronic pain and medical trauma making getting future care difficult. There are very few providers to support detransitioners and there is little knowledge of their medical needs.
IGNORANCE IS BLISS
I would hope if more progressives understood what is actually involved in these gruesome procedures, they would take a harder stand. I am willing to give them the benefit of the doubt that once they find out the reality their opinions can be changed.
The permanent effects for girls who detransition are reminders that cannot be disguised or forgotten — Adam’s apples, male voices, baldness, body and facial hair. Once they detransition they are pariahs. In the LGBTQIA+ community, there is no D. Finding meaningful partner relationships is enormously challenging as is finding peace with their bodies.
It takes tremendous courage for them to speak about the biggest mistake they made in their life. Their stories are dismissed or outright suppressed. Lies are told about them, they are gaslit, their pain compounded. Benjamin Boyce has done many sensitive interviews with these young women and men.
My position is not about hating or fearing trans people. I am actually libertarian. I accept adults who want to transition, that is their business, though I feel there should be full disclosure of what the surgeries entail to meet standards of informed consent. Extreme body modification should be a last resort. We need more research and I support funding for that.
As I support trans people, it is hard to watch girls and women losing rights hard fought for, especially when it comes to sports and privacy issues w/r/t female only spaces.
It is simply not fair for biological males to colonize women’s sports or to wave semi hard penises around in locker rooms and spas. Convicted sex offenders are sharing cells with female prisoners. The desire to be tolerant at all costs ignores human nature.
The media is complicit in covering up these truths. Advocacy style books prohibit honest reporting, and institutional capture means all dissenting voices are marginalized. To dissent is to risk being called TRANSPHOBIC, a coercive technique remarkable effective in silencing opposition. Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans (PITT) recently published a critique that lays bare this issue.
Trans rights ARE human rights, BUT trans rights should not supersede women’s rights. THAT is feminism, standing up for girls and women. I can not be a feminist anymore if it means defending men acting with predictable dominance — demanding lesbians have sex with them, entry to women’s domestic abuse shelters or having their testicles waxed under threat of lawsuit. THAT is male entitlement. Also known as “the patriarchy.”
Many older men who transition later in life are actually autogynephiliacs who are sexually aroused when others treat them as women. That is one reason they get irrationally upset at being misgendered, you have broken their sexual spell. We are NONCONSENSUAL NPCs in their sexual fetish. It is low level sexual harassment.
For a revealing insight into the deep misogyny of AGP, read some passages from the book Detransition, Baby written by a transwoman. She takes fetish play into some ugly places, this time involving an HIV positive transwoman who is demanding to breastfeed a baby. It also sheds light on sissy porn and how these people really see women, as submissive and only good for sexual humiliation. It made me physically ill. The book was nominated for an award in the female category, which is peak.
The city of Olympia has hired a transwoman pornographer as it’s Equity and Inclusion Coordinator. Tobi Hill-Meyer, reveals all in this stunning and brave interview. On her resume is The Genderfellator and Fuckstyles of the Queer and Famous. She also appeared in an episode of Kink University entitled “Muffing 101 — Penetration For Trans Women And CBT.” I have no issue with her work, but I do not think this qualifies her to represent the city in such an important position.
Homosexuality seems to be a nonissue on the right, except for harder core Christians, who do not approve but do not seem to be openly fighting like in the 80s. The “Don’t Say Gay” bill In Florida is being grossly misrepresented. The truth is it prohibits teachers from discussing gender or sexual orientation in PreK to third grade in a classroom setting. This is not unreasonable.
Being fair, there was some pushback about Caitlyn Jenner running for governor, but it was on the edges, and I only saw it online, never IRL. I do not see it coming from a place of hate, but a rejection of biological relativism. Blaire White, a transgender YouTube content creator has a mostly right leaning following. She even appeared in a video called “Snowflakes” with indie rapper Tom McDonald who is much loved by the Patriot crowd.
I see a general live and let live among most conservatives when it comes to trans. Concerns arise when trans’ rights are preferenced over women’s and parental rights. The issue is unequal and unfair treatment, double standards and compelled speech regarding pronouns. People being arrested, losing their jobs and deplatformed for saying sexual dimorphism is real. THAT is what bothers conservatives, not the existence of trans people. Nobody wants to erase or harm trans folx.
I too refuse to deny sexual dimorphism. It is biology 101. To say it is not is the contemporary equivalent of creationism, with more dire consequences to the individual and to society.
AKSHULLY CONSERVATIVES ARE FEMINIST AF
The current conservative position on women’s right is in line with second wave feminism. There are differences in gender that deserve respect while equality of opportunity is the goal. Gender is being reduced to the stereotypes I have fought my whole life against.
Conservatives reject the feminist label, as do I. It is no longer relevant to my life, the movement has been perverted in ways that undermine women. My gender did not matter to the right, they actually seem to respond well to strong women. At no point did I encounter sexism or gender bias, either toward myself or others. Women were some of the most active in organizing events and tending to party business.
Even CPAC, the major conservative conference did not have pro-life sessions this year. This caused some controversy, but it shows a tolerance for opposing views that is more modern.
I am sex positive but I find the mainstreaming of kink to children to be troubling. I recently voted against the Washington state sex ed curricula. It was solid around consent and abuse, but it encouraged young people to make serious health decisions without consulting parents.
I read the entire 600 pages and I did not like the constant messaging that you can trust your teacher, friends or Planned Parenthood more than your parents. I also did not like the explicit nature of some of the recommended resources, and the age which they are being presented.
Teaching porn literacy has value but I did not like the way Washington state approached it. I did not like kids role playing different genders and handling very personal sexual topics in front of their peers. Like adult equity sessions, it takes instruction into the realm of therapy with people neither trained or equipped to deal with possible emotional fallout.
I especially reject the idea that a school can hide a child’s gender issues from parents, going so far as to keep two sets of records. As a parent, I would be LIVID if I found out schools were hiding any information about my child from me, much less an issue with serious medical and psychological implications.
I do not like teachers bringing their gender or sexuality into the classroom. There is absolutely no valid reason why kids need to know who their teacher likes to fuck. This crosses boundaries.
There is a difference between teaching acceptance and anti-bullying and discussing things kids are given permission not to tell their parents about. Kids NOR teachers should not be put in the position of keeping secrets from caregivers — there is a word for that — grooming.
2021 Candidate Forum sponsored by PFLAG that I participated in. Local candidates were interviewed about issues affecting the LGBT community. We were asked a question about how we support the LGBTQA+ people in our lives. Note how each person tries to “outgay” each other by sharing personal details about friends and family who may not have wanted this information shared publicly. Scott Clifthorne, lower right, won by speaking to how both he and his wife have same sex lovers. Clifthorne was reelected to the Olympia School Board. Video credit: Olympia News Network.
Coupled with the new Washington state law that allows children as young as 13 to access gender affirming services without parental consent, there are going to be many young people harmed in the name of this extremist ideology.
There is also the normalizing of pedophilia under the rebranding “minor attracted persons.” While people who suffer this affliction deserve compassion, at the same time this is an example of the societal purpose of stigma as a valuable check on behavior.
Thank you for reading.
Candace Mercer is a progressive artist/writer/activist based in Olympia, WA. She reports on homelessness, political violence and public safety. She ran for Olympia City Council in 2021 with a bold and innovative campaign but lost. Her next project is For The Win: How to be Dangerous, a YouTube channel teaching people how to fight ethically and effectively.
Part I Strength as a Virtue, Self Censorship, Cancellation and Running for Office
Part II The Trump in the Room, COVID Policy and Gender Ideology
Part III Decriminalization of Crime, Normalization of Political Violence, Antifa, the Proud Boys and other Patriots
APPENDIX Red Pill Resource Guide
Substack Newsletter
YouTube Channel
YouTube Media Appearances
Twitter @candiomercer
Email OlympiaFTW2021@gmail.com
You say you are supportive of transgender people, but this article sounds like just the opposite.
I am transgender, and had my surgery done in 2019. I'm over 65 now, but knew I should have been male by 1st grade.
Unfortunately for me, I had to endure decades of abusive treatment, mis-diagnoses by a very anti-female taught health care system, and eventually figured out how to get things done behind all my health care providers backs.
It looks like you emphasize the sloppy surgeries, not the professionally done ones, like what I had done.
Where do you get "Each person that starts hormone therapy as a teen is worth over $1 million lifetime dollars to the pharmaceutical industry " from?
For about 60 years worth of T shots, that's only $36,000.
There continues to be horrendous stigma against people like me, through out health care and the justice systems.
Incredible piece, but please avoid the notion that men can have vaginas. They have holes. Also, male to female and female to male is not a thing in humans or any mammals.